“Some days I can conquer the world. Other days it takes me three hours to convince myself to shower.”
We all have those days. But you know what I’ve noticed? No one really talks about them. Or about how we all struggle.
We’ve all been there..
I don’t know about you, but I’ve had those days where everything just seems SO hard. On those days I look at the people around me and people I admire online, and without meaning to I judge myself so harshly in comparison to them.
It almost feels like every good day that I’ve had leading up to the bad seems like I’ve been living in some fantasy. I can’t understand why I feel this way and why everything just seems to come so easily to them. I almost didn’t realise that we all struggle.
But then I noticed a few things;
We all show our highlighted moments
People are ALWAYS asking me how I’m so happy all the time. And people compliment me on a feature such as my legs and tell me how lucky I am to have “Such nice legs”. People see me eating really healthy and ask me why it’s so hard for them to stick to a healthy diet.
That made me realise that just like all those people I compare myself to in my tough moments, people are comparing themselves to me in their tough moments. But the thing is, I am no different to them.
A lot of what we see in the brief moments in which we interact with people and the captured moments people choose to share online, are highlights. They’re the good moments.
Days like when people come to my group classes and experience my high energy mood without having seen the rough day I had prior to that.
Moments like when I post a workout video online and don’t mention how anxious I felt setting up a tripod in the gym and being “that girls that films herself.”
Times like when I post my “perfectly healthy” lunches and dinner on Instagram, without acknowledging the fact that I ate like three times the amount of snacks I should have eaten that day.
I can’t speak for anyone else, but I personally don’t hide these things intentionally in order to come across as being “perfect”. I do it by accident out of the fear of being vulnerable and being judged.
But by doing this, I’m just adding to the problem that I find myself stuck in on some days. The problem of comparing ourselves and our lives to the highlighted moments of others, without realising that we all struggle.
You’re not the only one struggling!
Just know that if you’re struggling today, it’s okay. It’s normal. We all struggle!
You have to realise how unfair it is to compare your everyday life with the highlight reel that you see online or even in person. There’s no way to be like that 24/7. Behind the scenes, everyone has struggles. Everyone has bad days. It’s normal.
Try not to beat yourself up about it. Sometimes just doing your best is more than good enough.
Changing Your Negative Mindset
You’ve read my entire post and everything sounds good but you’re still struggling. It’s hard to just stop feeling this way. I know because I have been there. And a massive part of my vision is helping women overcome that feeling of being trapped in a negative mindset so that they can feel good and reach their goals.
That’s why I created my free 14-day Mindset Flip mini-course that will help you do exactly that! Taking control of your mindset is so important and this course will guide you through the steps you need to take day by day.