I changed my mindset and it changed my life. This post is about the second out of the 5 things that completely changed my life. The last post discussed the non-physical, life-changing effect that health and exercise had on my life. In this post, I’m going to be delving into how I changed my mindset.
“If you look for the negative, it will be there. If you look for the positive, it will OVERWHELM you.” Over the past year, this quote by Tom Bilyeu has become more and more evident in my life. When I started changing my mindset, and the way in which I viewed the world, everything in my life started looking brighter and becoming easier. I talked a little bit about my depression in my last post, and changing my mindset through becoming more self-aware, was another significant factor in overcoming it.
What exactly is self-awareness?
You could Google real quick and find the true definition, but to me, self-awareness is knowing that I am in control. I can choose how I respond to situations, how I feel, whether I have a brilliant day or a crappy one. It’s about choosing what I believe and which of my thoughts I accept. Self-awareness is taking responsibility for my life and deciding not to fall victim to my feelings or circumstances I can’t control. Self-awareness is freedom, and it’s the ability to be whoever I want to be.
Tom Bilyeu describes what I believe self-awareness to be in relation to thoughts, particularly negative thoughts, in a perfect way. He states that when a negative thought enters his mind, it’s like a little ball entering a pachinko machine. The negative thought bounces around his brain (the machine), hitting the positive beliefs about himself that he as built into his mind (the pegs) before he takes a course of action (the ball falling into the hole).
GOOGLE: Pachinko Machine
You might be a little confused, and that is okay.
Basically, by becoming self-aware, you slowly over a period of time, build up the ability to observe your thoughts. You question them, and you ultimately decide whether you accept those thoughts or not. This works not only for your own thoughts, but other people’s opinions, societies beliefs, things you grew up believing to be true. You accept the thoughts/beliefs/opinions that you know to be true and the thoughts that will allow you to grow and become better. And you disregard the thoughts that limit your potential and impact your life in a negative way.
Unlike when you are not self-aware, and you let your self-doubting, belittling thoughts and/or the opinions of other people get you down or stop you from pursuing the things that you want to pursue.
The way in which I started my journey to self-awareness (And I say journey because it really is a life-long journey) was mainly through meditation and journaling. Meditation and learning to be mindful, allowed me to almost “switch off” my thoughts and just be. Journalling was something that helped me analyze my thoughts.
I would often write about how I was feeling, but then also question what made me feel that way. When I started, I was honestly doing these two things as a way to self-soothe and because I heard that it’s “good for you”. Slowly over time learned to separate myself from my mind and as a result have become very self-aware.
Looking back, I can see the huge impact this had on my life. Although I still feel like I have only just reached the very tip of the iceberg, becoming self-aware and, as a result, changing your outlook on life, is something that I believe will tremendously change your life too. But always remember that nothing good happens overnight, and everyone’s journey is completely different.
So if you’re trying to become more self-aware but you’re feeling frustrated because it just isn’t happening; take a breath, slow down and ask yourself why you’re feeling this way.